Good Morning Beauties!
First let me say: TAPS...take it easy on yourself. You do a lot every day to enhance your and your family's lives! Shimmy it off & boogy on to the next great day. KimB, welcome back. You've been missed. I should train for that race of yours. Sounds like a hellish good time for the silent sadist in me.
Recently at work 2 of my co-workers on the shift before mine complained to the supervisor about me. I think they mentioned something to the effect of me saying they're not doing their job. Not exactly what I said, but I do come in every night and ask them for a report on the day's events. THAT is part of job: Ensure that all shifts get a report of important events. So, every night I ask for a report & just about every night they leave out major incidents (i.e.: one resident assaulted another; someone not returning from pass; a resident being admitted to the hospital & we need to remove him from the census; etc...). Now these two have summoned their inner-asshole & have decided to not speak to me at all. Uhm...WTHolyF??? I keep thinking I should pull them aside, individually, and have a clarification chat. However, I know this will be in vain. They'll get loud, too urban, & more loud. I don't have the patience for all that. And as much as I'd like to say, "I don't give a shit what they say/think!", the whole situation bothers me. It doesn't bother me that they're talking about me, `cause it's what we do, but I'm more bothered with myself... On some levels. I know that I am very direct when speaking to people & some take it as rudeness/accusatory/stern/too curt/and so on. So, I battle between rather or not I should tone down & TRY to hold my tongue or continue to address people directly in (my perception at least) a professional manner. Being non-direct would almost mean that I'm not being ME at all. I have decided to just be more conscientious of my words in the presence of some & that has brought me a little bit of serenity. Bleh! Ladies, I know none of you really know me per se, but your opinion is valuable to me. Feel free to be as direct (smile) as you want. I'm not easily offended. Sorry about the madness here, but I needed to type it out for therapeutic reasons.
Inhale.Exhale.Inhale.Exhale.
Goals for the Day:
↔ Pack.
↔ Rest. I'm soooo sleepy.
↔ Mane management. I'm getting a hair cut. WhooHoo!
↔ Stay positive.
Thanks for listening & happy day to all!
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Thank you Carmen! First, I think it is very wise and shows how mature you are to look at what your part is in this situation. It's smart because you can't control what they think or how they respond. I know you and I really appreciate your direct communication. Sometimes I can be too direct and I forget my audience. My brother once told me I have to remember my roots and have a little bit more compassion. I have a ton of compassion but sometimes I come across harsh. I think you need to assess your audience, per say, and try to adjust. It doesn't mean you are not being you, it means you are trying to be sensitive to how people receive you. It's okay to pull them aside. Pull them one at a time and say that your intention was not to undermine their work. When you are going to confront someone, always start with a compliment. It takes out the steam. You are a terrific communicator and I always loved going to you with my problems. :)
Thanks TAPS! I've definitely decided to adjust a wee bit. I am not going to pull either of them aside, though. I battled back & forth with the pros and cons, and just when I decided: "Yes, I'll approach them individually.", they gave me all the attitude they could. They're only at my job temporarily & I'm permanent staff, which is part of why they've been sorta pissy. I'll wait them out as they'll be gone soon. Thank you for being so intuitively fantastic!
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